“The need to be right is not about truth. It’s about protection.” – Alejandra Leibovich
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The Hidden Cost of Needing to Be Right
Most people think the need to be right is about logic, truth, or intelligence. But in this episode, Alejandra Leibovich reveals something deeper. The need to be right is often a subconscious defense mechanism rooted in fear, insecurity, and the desire to protect self-esteem. It shows up in conversations, leadership, sales calls, relationships, and decision-making. Sometimes loudly through arguing and defensiveness. Other times quietly through avoidance, withdrawal, or the need to not be wrong. And while it may feel harmless, this pattern quietly limits growth, connection, and opportunity.
Awareness Before Change
Alejandra further explains how emotional reactions are tied to experiences formed long before adulthood. Rejection, insecurity, fear of failure, and the need for approval often shape how entrepreneurs respond to pressure without realizing it. This awareness clarifies why the need to be right does not need to be a default behavior.
Hot Seat: From Defensiveness to Curiosity
An entrepreneur prepares for a difficult meeting with a referral source. Alejandra offers surprising insight into the truth behind the feelings of defensiveness and rejection. Instead of focusing on the need to be right, Alejandra reframes the situation entirely. The goal of the meeting is no longer to defend or justify. The goal is to understand the other person’s needs by asking better questions and listening without reacting emotionally.
By approaching the meeting with curiosity and not defensiveness, the entrepreneur creates an environment open for opportunities that defensiveness often destroys.
This Week’s Challenge:
Instead of reacting defensively, this lesson challenges entrepreneurs to become aware of the emotional patterns driving their behavior. To experience this firsthand, start with a simple (and uncomfortable) exercise:
For one week, let everyone be right.
No arguing. No interrupting. No “but.” Instead, respond with “yes, and…” while asking thoughtful questions to better understand the other person. Because the goal is not to lose your voice. The goal is to stop allowing defensiveness to control it.
This lesson is not about staying silent or agreeing with everyone around you. It is about becoming aware of the emotional patterns that shape reactions, decisions, and relationships. Because when you stop needing to defend yourself at every turn, you create space to listen better, lead better, and grow in ways that are impossible when the need to be right takes priority.
Related Episodes:
- Do Not Trust Your Feelings with RJon Robins
- The Power of Intentional Choices with Erika Ferenczi
- Facing the Impossible with Alejandra Leibovich
About the Podcast
The Exponential Entrepreneur is for driven entrepreneurs who already know that mindset is the key to everything and are ready to move beyond knowing into doing.
Hosted by Erika Ferenczi, the show features lessons from the co-creators of The Practical Profitable Mindset Program: RJon Robins, Alejandra Leibovich, Erika Ferenczi, and Oscar Ferenczi. They are a team of battle-tested entrepreneurs who have built multimillion-dollar businesses from the ground up.
They didn’t get lucky. They got disciplined. They did the inner work that made exponential growth possible.
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